Start now. Improve later.
I’m a good listener. In fact, many will tell you that I am a great listener. It’s one of many traits that we believe is necessary when you want to assist women and their families the way that we do. Just a few weeks ago, I was counting on the listening skills of another sister doula about website challenges and delays. She heard my frustration about the site not going as I had hoped it would. How “I NEED this…and I REALLY need that….”. All this venting and blaming I was doing was getting me nowhere. She stated simply, “Start now. Improve later.” It doesn’t have to be perfect right now, but as you continue to work at it things will get better. One late evening with all the tinkering, and making this better, I inadvertently hit the wrong button and poof! Just like that. ALL the work that had been put into the site was gone. I tried everything to restore it. Log out. Log back in. Refresh, but nothing. I sat there, so frustrated and distraught. Why now? I cried. I had a feeling that all was not lost, but it was another delay. I knew that there would be some tech hero and/or she-ro out there that would swoop in to save the day. I just needed that brief moment to release what I knew would someday be easier, but today these tears needed to fall. They needed to fall because I knew. I knew that this was a part of the process of learning many new things and maybe even meeting new people; though truth be told I wanted it to happen today, the day I deemed ready. After a hug and sincere encouraging words from three beautiful beings my husband Kevin, the sweet baby in his arms Zion (our niece) and youngest daughter Talia who all entered moments after the tears. “It’s okay. Everything is going to be alright.” they soothed. I collected myself, laptop back in lap, went to the support room and sent a chat asking for assistance. By 9:30 the next morning, the site was back on the page and I was ready to put in more work. The Sister doula, Freya could be heard encouraging me on “Start Now. Improve Later.” This saying can be applied to so many areas in your life dear sister. If you are going through any challenge and want to move forward, I encourage you to Start Now and Improve Later. With every effort you put toward doing that which is your desire, dream, vision or mode of service just start. You will gain the support, love and encouragement from so many around you (seen and unseen) who have been supporting you many times without your awareness. You are so loved! There is absolutely nothing you can’t accomplish if you just put an effort, love and faith into. Whenever you feel doubt in caring for your health, your children, your finances, your spiritual growth, your career, your marriage, your relationships, your self-care…. just remember “START NOW. IMPROVE LATER.” Peace, love and light.
Love Talita Akana is a wife, mother, sister, and a friend. Over the years, she has shared guidance from the lessons she has learned. Grateful to be a vessel to assist others as a source of inspiration to touch another with what they learned to grow on their journey. This is Love.